Imagine getting to the end of your life and realizing that all of the decisions you made throughout your life weren’t what you actually wanted?

When I realized that for the majority of my life, I was not living based off my own heart-led desires, but rather from limited perceptions and the approval of others, my entire life changed. And let me tell you, it was not obvious, to others or myself, that I was doing this. But once I came to this realization, I knew I had to share because so many of us are not following our most aligned path - the path that leads us to fulfillment - the life that feels as good on the inside as it does on the outside, because of all the ways we have become disconnected to what our true desires really are.

How have we become so disconnected?

Because we have been hard-wired our entire lives to operate within limited perceptions, to play it safe, to stay small, to use fear as guidance. And I’ll explain to you exactly some of the sneakily subtle ways this plays out.

For example, we have been taught since we were kids to seek approval from our parents. We believe they know what’s best for us - and there are many cases where our parents do want what’s best for us. But have you ever wondered, did you choose that career because your parents told you it was “stable” and would ensure you made a decent living? Did you quiet your inner nudge to go after the career you really wanted because you were told that it was a competitive industry? Or that it would be difficult to be successful in that career path?

Or, maybe we’ve been making decisions because we've been caught in the comparison trap that has been magnified by social media. We’ve been told that there is some imaginary timeline that people must follow to find their partner, get married, buy a house and have children.

Maybe this comparison trap has led you to make a decision to stay in a mediocre relationship because everyone around you was getting married and you were afraid you’d end up behind. Or maybe you let the fear that you wouldn’t be able to find someone better drive your decision over going into the unknown to seek out your soulmate.

Do you see how all of these decisions are made out of fear? Out of limiting beliefs? Out of the approval or perceptions of others?

This is why it has never been more important than now to begin waking up your internal guidance system. When I say this, I mean our true, inner knowing, intuitive signals. That means clearing out these fear-based thoughts, the limited belief systems, the need for external validation.

Too often, we are making decisions from an out-of-balance place, not from our internal guidance system. When we aren’t aware of our limiting beliefs, it can become too easy to make a decision based on a limited belief, or a past experience, instead of from the lense of knowing everything that is possible for you. When you make a decision from your inner knowing, it will feel empowering.

If you found this article eye-opening and want to dive into this topic further, I have an entire podcast episode on this called: “Without this, your life will never be your own”.

Listen to the episode here