It’s officially February and we are already in the second month of the year. And this month has powerful energy that can quantum leap you into your dream life if you capitalize on it the right way. And with that, I figured it would be the perfect time for me to share what I found actually moves the needle in bringing all of your big life dreams into a reality.

A lot of us get caught in the trap of telling ourselves that this year WILL be different from the last, only to end up still falling short of our goals, still stuck in the same habit loops, and still questioning why we aren’t where we want to be yet.

Personally, this was the story of my life. Every year I would set ambitious goals for myself only to fall short of them, or sometimes get completely nowhere by the end of the year. For example, I had the idea of starting this business on my heart since 2020, but I didn’t actually take action on it until 2023. Or, last year I set out on a bridal glow up journey, only to find myself feeling more stuck than ever and back to square one by the end of the year.

The point is, there have been so many goals I’ve set over the years that I either didn’t act on, made progress but couldn’t sustain it permanently, or was trying and everything and anything but couldn’t get where I wanted to go.

And then in the last quarter of 2025, it hit me. I spent the second half of 2025 honing in on the science of unconditional self-love and how it relates to success in life. Once I realized how vital it is to creating your dream life, I knew I had to share it.

Why might you ask? Well, I have SO many reasons I could share with you, but for the sake of not making this article hundreds of pages long, I am going to share with you one of the biggest a-ha reasons I found.

The Law of Focus - otherwise known as the premise of - what you focus on expands. What I came to realize is that when we lack self-love, a big component of that is that we tend to be REALLY hard on ourselves. We want change so badly, that we are hard on ourselves when we feel like we aren’t moving fast enough. Don’t even get me started on how magnified this gets when you are caught in the comparison trap of comparing yourself to where other people are at.

I noticed that a huge thing keeping me stuck in life was that I was always focusing on how I wasn’t where I wanted to be yet, that nothing I ever did was enough because I was still so far off from where I wanted to be. I was always focused on how stuck I was, so of course, that meant I would continue to stay stuck.

I Law of Focused myself into a never-ending cycle of “I’m not there yet” or the dreaded in between.

But then I realized, I made this out to be such a negative thing. It wasn’t that I needed to move faster, but if I wanted to truly progress, I had to start appreciating where I was at, to start enjoying the journey - to be in my PURSUIT era.

Because when you are able to appreciate where you’re at and how far you’ve come, it creates a huge relief of pressure you put on yourself, it stops the endless beating up dialogue in your mind, and then that appreciation for yourself starts you on the beautiful journey of self-love.

Want to learn more about how achieving unconditional self-love is the key to getting unstuck and creating the life of your dreams? I have a podcast episode that dives deeper into this that I will link here

February is a big month for growth & transformation! We have a new moon solar eclipse on February 17th AND we are officially leaving the year of the snake and entering the year of the Fire Horse this month. The collective energy has never been more aligned to create quantum leaps that elevate you to your highest potentials.

What were your biggest takeaways from this article and what do you plan to do to make this year different than previous years?